Relationship issues...please help..i know it's long but i need the help...?
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1-I like him and im not sure if he likes me.We always me around.We jack each others things.Look at each others eyes.directly,when we talk.He Always got quiet around me (3 years) not anymore though.we always text.When he asked me who i liked and i told him another name he said "well,do you like anyone else?" and we were looking in the eyes.People have said he always flirts with me.But the tricky part is that i have all guy friends so I can't tell.Hard to explain.maybe you can tell? thanks!
2-I also like this guy. He likes to hit me,grab things out of my hands, flip me off, and shoot me with rubber bands. He says he feels bad when he does this.(I can see the meaning I his eyesâ ¦)he races me on the mile He showed me his 6-pack (abs lol not soda or beer). he said only good friends get to be flipped off,lol.Buddies don't. We were walking for PE warm up. and he was ahead.then i started to run and so did he.(he always does this)Iâ ™ve caught him staring at me at lunch,but i was at his table.Even with all this stuff,he's really nice.Just so you know.And funny and cute.
I'll bet you think "guy 1 is the one,he's not mean or anything" but for some reason i really reeeaaalllyyy like guy 2.Why?Help??!!
Don't say anything about "abuse"
i like longer honest answers.tips,stories,whatever.those are the ones I choose for best answer not just yes or no.plz no "he's immature" comments.lol.were young.
GUY 1
"We jack each others things." oh i think he likes you. IF YOU JACKED MY THING I'D IKE U TOO
"He Always got quiet around me (3 years) not anymore though"
HE'S PROBABALY MOANING WHEN U JACK HIS THING.
"When he asked me who i liked and i told him another name he said "well,do you like anyone else?" " HE WANTS TO KNOW IF U WILL DO THE TRAIN THING CHOO CHOOOOOO.
GUY 2
"2-I also like this guy" U DONT SAY!!! HO HO HO MERRY X-MAS
"guy. He likes to hit me,grab things out of my hands, flip me off, and shoot me with rubber bans."
HE WANTS 2 GRAB YOUR ASSME NO MORE QUESTIONS.
" He says he feels bad when he does this.(I can see the meaning I his eyes...)" ITS CALLED THIRSTY !!!! HE WANT U 2 JACK HIS THING 2
"he races me on the mile " BOY HAS STAMINA VERY USEFULL IN THE BEDTAKE HIM U WILL ENJOY
" He showed me his 6-pack (abs lol not soda or beer). " AND WHAT ELSE DONT HOLD BACK DID HEPULL IT OUT .......
" he said only good friends get to be flipped off," IS HIS FINGER LONG
" We were walking for PE warm up" IS THAT PHYSICAL EDUCATION OR PENUS EDUCATION. YOUR A HO
"Iâ ™ve caught him staring at me at lunch"
SOUNDS LIKE HE'S HUNGRY REAL HUNGRY AND IT AINT FOOD
"but i was at his table" YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN ON THE TABLE
"I'll bet you think "guy 1 is the one,he's not mean or anything" but for some reason i really reeeaaalllyyy like guy 2.Why?Help??!!"
GUY 2 ID PROBABLY THE 1 SINCE HE HAS MORE INDURANCE BUT U'VE NOT TRIED HIM YET TEST HIM OUT THEN MAKE A DECISION .
First guy. I think he likes you very much.( gay ) maybe he is maybe he ain't but if you have known this guy three years and you both still flirt with each other have you kissed ( general stuff ) and if so what was the outcome ( or was there no outcome ) anyway do you like this guy? or are you just infatuated , okay here is a little test for you . when you are with this guy ( BE HONEST HERE ) how do you feel, would you do things for him ( without thinking ) you know general stuff . and when you chat do you both talk freely about things ( you know not having to worry about what you say or do ) and if you asked him for something would he hesitate or without thinking give you what you asked ( generally ) and obviously the same for you. and how do you feel when you are not with him , say he went on holiday for a while how do you feel when he is not there, and do you think about him throughout the day without even realising it .and do you like spending time with him on a one to one basis.
Ok second guy.
This guy has a defence mechanism( disguising his shyness ) or he really doesn't like you .but i can't tell for sure .BUT as with some people this is a trait that they use openly and feel comfortable with to show affection to others.( so as not to embarrass themselves ) so how do both of you get on with each other on a one to one basis ,does he still act up or does he stop with his antics,and how does the antics that he gets up to affect you ( GOT TO BE HONEST ) does it realy get on your nerves after a while or do you think it's funny or do you think thats just him. and if you were ( dating) I said if you were dating and he still did this would you like it . ( And pause here ) before you go into a rant(defenceive) about him.ask yourself do you feel the same about him as you do about guy no:1 ( BE HONEST) and do you get those feelings you get with guy 1 with guy 2 . ( PERSONALY in my opinion ( that does not count ) i think that guy no 1 is the one ) but only you can make the call. and then after you have taken the plunge and it does not work out ( BE HONEST ) how would you feel ( that thought is for guy no 2 ) and if you took the plunge with guy no1 ( in my opinion that does not count) you would still be friends if this did not work.
If you like the second guy more, tell him you do not like that and he has to accept it and if he wants you to be his gf, then he has to accept that, it does not matter if he likes it or not.
If he does not accept that or still does it, then thats it.
I am pretty sure , if he is really into you, he will change that, because talk is cheap. He has to do the actions.
Second guy kinda scares me with how he jokes but I had friend in high school who used to rough play all the time with me and i couldnt figure him out and then i realized he liked me but was too afraid to give up that "tough guy" persona cuz men feel safe in that zone. Seems to me this guy might be more of a puppy love thing cuz its more playful...But spend time with both and see if you have more feelings for one or the other and then spend time with him! :)
A part of you likes the first guy, and another part of you likes the second one. It's actually pretty mature of you to acknowledge it and not try to push away one and chose the other. The people that we like are only a mirror as to how we develop and grow.
The first one is a time-stopper, there are guys like that who are squeezing themselves in a flirting position forever, because they're terrified of women. The part of you that does not trust men is after him, he is safe, he'll never get too close.
You need a story? I know a man who was thinking of a woman for 10 years, but did not do anything about it, and would answer her emails after 3 weeks. Some men just get in one place and stay there, but with the hint that if only you did the right thing...they would... They won't.
The second one is clumsy but lively in his clumsiness, and you liking him reflects a part of you that stumbles and cannot keep a smooth track, a gentle flow of things when they happen for real. Things sometimes break, relationships sometimes end, hanging with the second one helps you guys share the anxiety of life being unpredictable.
The second one likes you best, of course. The first one likes the vibe of flirting, of exchanging eye contact, just like another person would like good music. For the first one it's about being around you, not being with you, I think. For the second one, it's about being with you, even if it makes him anxious as hell.
I think the first guy likes you. He was fishing (presumably for himself but it could have been for a friend of his) to find out who you liked. And I think the second guy likes you too, since he is more honest about his feelings.
You like the second guy more; you should go with him. That's the most important thing: finding a guy you like. Don't settle for someone who doesn't make you blissfully happy just because you know he likes you or think he likes you more; your feelings are the important ones here, and I can tell you like #2 better.
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